Life circumstances will reverberate back to you as a mirror, reflecting your true image when you look into the mirror. We can see ourselves as we are from the outer appearance but the echo experience of life when compared to the mirror reflection is an inner reflection.
In my life I am preoccupied with the inner reflection. Of course the outer reflection is important, but the inner reflection becomes much louder when life itself echoes back to you in some kind of event, happening or circumstance. Everything eventually comes full circle and returns to you. The key is to acknowledge what you see.
Here is my caution in doing this one, beware of beating yourself up, as this becomes ‘exuse-itus’ one of the fastest growing dis-eases in life today. The excuse is that you find fault with yourself continuously. You sound good, remorseful, you go on about how bad you are, how you are just not really getting it and around, and around you go with self-purging talk. The problem is you sound believable, and have loads of humbleness, but this sets you up to do it all over again when the next echo of life reverberates itself in the mirror.
How to cope
I would propose something new a coping mechanism that I found useful. Acknowledge the issue, the error that brought the mirror of reflection. Let go of the small ego that is so hurt it cannot stand to be wrong and is too full of pride.
Step aside from this kind of reflection and boldly stare at the issue in the face and laugh at it. See the humorous side when you are wrong, you are wrong, so what! The world will not stop turning, life will go on. When you realize this, you give up feeling sorry for yourself and it is the end of the usual ‘excuse-itus’ stories.
Inside yourself, you know the mirror does not lie to you. When you admit this to yourself something fascinating happens; you will feel energy, an invigoration and this propels you forward. You will surprise yourself with the clear insight you have and in addition, you will know how to eliminate the error that brought you the mirror.
We all have funny patters of reaction to life, some of them are good and others are goofy (that is the fun word for it). Learn to laugh at yourself and not take yourself so seriously. Take charge of your reflection in the mirror reflection.
This is perfect and exactly where I am at. I am learning to laugh at my errors, if in fact I can call them errors. I want to say my letting go of what I think is right and going with the flow. When I do that something happens and I gain control and start judging what I said, what I did and where it was wrong. The reality is I am sharing my heart, my thoughts and me. That is very different for me and I tend to go back to my mirror and say who just did that, said that and acted like that. It is all freeing me and I am now understanding I must laugh at all and see the humor in being me. Hope this makes sense. OOps there I go again questioning what I say, when it flows from my mind and heart as my truth.
Lynn, thanks for reading the article and posting a comment. A sense of humor goes a long way to assisting us figure it out. Looking in the mirror of self-reflection with humor is not so bad after all, in fact, it is the best thing we ever did for ourselves.
How is your day Joan – we here to help!
Thanks Josh, appreciate your help. sweetCaptcha is working 🙂
This is so true, Joan! People always complain that the same thing (not good) happens to them over and over. They forget a mirror. To change what they see in the mirror, they just need to change themselves because a denominator of all situations is this particular individual. Love your writing style and thoughts:-)
Thanks Joanna, complaining goes nowhere, and the mirror reflection will give us the truth, I would rather have the truth than the false image.